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Are you a FIXER or a Builder?

This is a post I have been avoiding.  It is one I am going to freak out when I hit the publish button BUT I am going to write it anyway in the hopes that maybe just one person is impacted by my words.   I have an eating disorder.   I restrict what I eat to the point of starvation. I do this when I am stressed, when I feel like I am not in control of things in my life, when I am sad or frustrated. I also do this when I compare my body to someone else's. The majority of my life I have struggled with never feeling and being … [Continue Reading...]

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Why are People so MEAN?

Why are people so mean??? I have been asking myself this same question for awhile now, and I have seen many of you asking the same question the last few days.  What causes people to forget their humanity and go hog wild with judgment and hate? Are they just hateful people? Do they believe their crap doesn't stink? Or maybe they were born HEARTLESS like the Tin Man from the Wizard of Oz? If only, the Emerald City, with it's cure all Wizard really existed for these mean people because that would explain everything. Instead we are left to … [Continue Reading...]

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How I choose LOVE in the face of Tragedy-

Yesterday's post went viral and with that comes the good, the bad and the UGLY. There were the me too comments, the heartfelt comments, and the comments that asked "how I could ever feel okay about what happened?" and those are the comments I want to address.   If there is one thing I have learned in this life it is that I don't have to be okay with someone's choices/mistakes or the outcome of that choice to continue to love them through it.   As I am a religious person the only way I can think to explain this way of … [Continue Reading...]

Empathy

The Imperfect Mom- You are NOT Alone….

I have been sick to my stomach ever since I read this story on the news. I have read the comments and I can feel the hate in people's hearts towards this mom. My stomach churns knowing she is reading what people are writing about her and what it must be doing to her. Words destroy people and you cannot convince me other wise.   I think the thing that makes me the sickest is all the mom's out there belittling and ripping her apart as a mom- turning their noses up LIKE THEY WILL NEVER MAKE A MISTAKE. (that is me yelling that sentence.) … [Continue Reading...]

The Power of Words

The Impossible- The Power of Words Series

    Words are a funny thing. No matter how effortlessly they fly off the tongue, their weight is undeniable; if not for the speaker, then for the listener and if not in the present, then in the future. At their best they become a catalyst from which we set great things in motion. At their worst the able-bodied become crippled. I was not going to become crippled. Not willingly. In spring of 2003 I was fortunate to become a patient of a top neurologist in the country. Unfortunately, I was only sixteen. My list of priorities … [Continue Reading...]

The Power of Words

Words can Sting

    I think everyone can look back in their life and remember something that someone said that HURT. I would also venture to say that most of us could remember something from junior high school that fits that bill. Junior high was one of the hardest times of my life in growing up. While I was not literally beat up, I was definitely figuratively beat up by a few mean girls. And, I can honestly tell you that I am thankful for those difficult experiences. Around that time period, one girl even spray-painted on our community’s … [Continue Reading...]

The Power of Words

Passing Judgement- The Power of Words Series

Hi, I'm Briton from Rad Mom Cool Kid, a lifestyle blog where I share a little bit of everything! Travel tips, photography, recipes, beauty...if you dumped out Mary Poppins' bag, that would be my blog! I'm excited to share an experience with you today, one that still stings a little but I'm glad to have experienced.   9 years ago I found out I had stage 2 malignant melanoma. For those not familiar, melanoma is a deadly form of skin cancer. That's the bad news. The good news is if you catch it early, you have a pretty high chance of … [Continue Reading...]

Depression

Refuse to Sink- Our Sacred

    I saw this quote the other day on a post my cousin Gina wrote on her blog Birth Mother Baskets. For some reason it spoke not quietly to my heart, but shouted to the deepest part of it. I'd like to share why those words had a power over me and awakened my weary heart. In this moment I am trusting you with my sacred and I am hoping you will treat it as such.   I battle depression. In my experience with talking about depression I have seen a few different view points. Some say that depression is all in your head, it … [Continue Reading...]

The Power of Words and how it Changed my Life

I've come to an important realization. I am utterly clueless about music these days. I submit the following facts as evidence: -  I don't own an iPod or any kind of a decent music system -  I probably have less than 20 songs on my phone and I listen to them like once a week. -  I listen to music less than anyone I know.  Rarely in the car or around the house, and at work I listen to the same handful of CD's over and over.  In the car, I mostly listen to comedy routines, books on CD, or just nothing. -  I'm pretty good on oldies, but … [Continue Reading...]

Frozen by Words- The Power of Words Series

 As I watched the move "Frozen", I couldn't help but make some comparisons between Elsa and my own experience. As the movie opens, you see Elsa happily playing with her younger sister. An accident happens and Elsa is forced to abandon who she is and conceal her true nature. In the song sequence of "Let it Go", Elsa talks about the storm raging and she repeats what she was told growing up, "Don't let them in, Don't let them see. Be the good girl you always have to be. Conceal, don't feel, don't let them know." As a small child, I was … [Continue Reading...]