Think back to when you were five years to eight years old and anything was possible? At five years old I knew that I could fly if I had enough pixie dust and a happy thought in my heart. And, at eight years old I was going to be a Solid Gold dancer (a television show well before your time, but a nod to all of the mammas!) After my Solid Gold gig I was going to be an author of fiction novels and an actress. Of course I would marry a handsome Prince Charming and have a houseful of kids, both my own and adopted. At that tender age we made up our own rules and believed them to be reality. It was a magical time. At that age I did not have any limitations, only passion and dreams. There wasn’t a reason in the world that I could not have become and done all of those things. My dreams have since changed, but I am moving forward in my current dreams without the limitation of “I can’t.”
My parents gave me one of my greatest life gifts by telling me that I could do or be anything I set my mind to. I am giving you that same gift. I may not know you personally, and you are going to have a slew of reasons that you think I am wrong, but I truly believe that YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO! Is it at all possible that I may be right, you wonder? YES! It isn’t a matter of money or life’s circumstances; it is a matter of decision. Somewhere along the way someone told you “You can’t do that,” or, “You are not capable,” and you decided that you believed them. Why did you do that?
When you were five years old, what did you want to be when you grew up? You probably had a mega list just like my super-star niece. Currently she is a Disney princess, but when she grows up she wants to be a dental hygienist, a hairstylist, and an attorney (just like her Aunt Brookie and her dad.) I am certainly not going to tell her that she has to choose only one of her dreams, because she doesn’t. Did alarms just go off in your head? I violated some rule in your head that says you have to choose one profession. Now you are wondering how my niece is going to accomplish all of those occupational dreams? She has a lifetime, so why not?
SO CAN YOU!
Somewhere along the way in life we start to believe what others tell us, good or bad. (This is one powerful reason to surround yourself with good friends that believe in you.) Why do we give more weight to someone else’s opinion about our potential than simply deciding for ourselves? Decision is powerful. I worry every day as I send MY SON off to the jungle better known as “school.” Will he remember who he believes he is? Or, if he will let others negatively influence his opinion and tell him what he can or can’t do? What will he choose to believe? That is the key element: CHOOSING TO BELIEVE. What lies are you telling yourself every day? What do you catch yourself saying to YOU? If you catch yourself saying, “Dummy, only an idiot would make that mistake,” I assure you that you have chosen wrong. Somewhere along the line you decided that you were not allowed to make mistakes or it made you a bad or dumb person. Next time try telling yourself, “I made the best decision I could at that time and with the information and feelings that I had, and I want to learn from this decision and its consequences.” There is nothing wrong with making mistakes as long as you turn them from mistakes into lessons. Who are you and what do you choose to believe? As teenagers people often accuse you of knowing it all anyway! So, know that you are AMAZING!
Motivational Speaker | Former Miss Nevada